I’m the first one to admit that I’m fat. I’m definitely not in shape, I’ve got flab, and according to the BMI scale I’m morbidly obese. Some people might see me and think, “Wow, that girl is so lazy. She needs to stop eating all that junk and work out”. To those people I’d like to say: FUCK YOU! Those people have no idea what’s going on in my life or the hell I have been through. Why should they get to judge me based on my weight? My 100 pound weight gain was not something I chose, it was forced upon me. I’ve had to put my life on hold due to chronic pain for five long years and have come out of it with awards, a degree, and a future. So here’s what some people may want to consider before bashing the overweight:
1. You have no idea what’s going on in their lives. Pain zaps all of your energy and slows down your metabolism. The loads of medication I’m on also slows down my metabolism and makes my heart beat crazy heart when I exercise. I’d love to see you run on a treadmill in excruciating pain with your heart beating so hard you feel like you’re going to have a heart attack. I can assure you, it’s not a pleasant experience.
Other things that could be going on in fat people’s lives you don’t know about: taking care of small children and working all the time prevent them from exercising regularly, dealing with a thyroid disease that makes it nearly impossible to lose weight, recent tragedy has zapped their motivation, they are happy the way they are!
2. When you rudely point out your opinion of us, no matter how well intended, it hurts our feelings. For example, four years ago I was working as a lifeguard at a local pool. I had just started my weight gain process and was self-conscious about it. However, it was hot so I decided to jump off the diving board and cool down in the pool. Before I jumped a group of boys started yelling, “Watch out for the whale!” as if that wouldn’t completely embarrass me. After I got out of the pool I called the boys over and let them know that disrespecting the lifeguards can result in automatic dismissal from the pool. They looked so embarrassed. I guess they didn’t think they would have to face the person they were calling names. Needless to say, they shut up for the rest of their visit. If you have an opinion about my weight, so should you.
3. Just because we’re overweight, doesn’t mean we’re not healthy. It’s such a load of shit that we all sit around eating three orders of fries and multiple burgers. When I see episodes of Dr. Phil and the fat person just stopped eating McDonald’s every day I want to puke. Lots of overweight people work out regularly and don’t lose weight. Lots of people are skinny who don’t work out. Stop judging us and do some self reflection.
I, for example, have continued to eat healthily throughout these five hellish years. I eat lots of fruits, vegetables, and take daily vitamins. But I’m still fat because I would sleep for days at a time due to pain and my metabolism sucks due to pain medication. Since I started weaning off my medicine a month and a half ago I’ve lost 30 pounds. So, no, I’m not fat because I only eat cookies and watch TV, thank you very much.
4. We try to lose weight; sometimes obsessively. I started my first diet at 10 years old. Since then I have tried every weight loss program under the sun to try and make it to a single digit size. It has obviously never happened. The closest I got was a size 11 when my jaw was banded shut after my first surgery. I was getting, maybe, 300 calories a day then. What does that tell you? The average American woman is a size 14, so why do we all think we have to be a size 4? Oh right, because people are judging us.
Everyone hates to be judged based on their looks, but somehow society has created this theory that because fat people are unhealthy, it’s their own fault and therefore okay to judge them. That just isn’t right. There are entire websites dedicated to people’s hatred of fat people! Really? You can’t find another group of people to hate? Child molesters, rapists, and terrorists are just some of my suggestions.
So let’s stop the hate and the judgement and decide that we are all human beings with flaws. Instead of judging fat people, why not show a little compassion? Believe me, it’s not fun to be fighting your body all the time.
Or better yet, all us fat people should get together, tell the world to fuck off, and be happy with our bodies the way they are. We may be fat, but we have all our limbs, aren’t dying of cancer, and have a boundless future ahead of us. So maybe if we stop whining about our weight, the haters will stop judging us for it.